Juan Santos on Dealing with Insecurity | Episode 31

How do you traverse conflicts with your partner where you feel insecure? What can you do to build healthy self-esteem? How can you navigate your insecurities to pull them out at the root?

In this podcast episode, Billy and Brandy Eldridge speak with Juan Santos about dealing with insecurity.

Meet Juan Santos

Juan is a licensed clinician that helps people reclaim their lives and build healthy relationships. Mr. Santos owns a counseling practice, Santos Counseling PLLC, located in Greensboro, NC. Juan loves coaching people through journeys of self-discovery and uncovering creative ways to become their best version.

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In This Podcast


  • Navigating insecurities
  • Parenting and insecurities
  • How do you build healthy self-esteem?

Navigating insecurities

As you navigate it, try to remember that your relationship has a safe place. (Juan Santos)

Remember that no harm will come into play between yourself and your partner. At times we forget that, and it pushes us to be more insecure. People will do what they want to independently, however when those two people are in a relationship, those two individual choices can clash.

Therefore, it can help to resolve those issues as a unit and it shows your child that the message is coming across from two united people, versus from one

Parenting and insecurities

Some people will come into relationships with insecurities due to previous unresolved traumas.

What’s really happening is that the past is tapping into the present moment and reminding the person of the hurt they experienced, so then they’re in this state of alert and their reaction to their partner could be aggressive or avoidant. So, there’s a prime example of how our individual insecurity can hurt a relationship. (Juan Santos)

Once you recognize you are operating from a place of insecurity, you can move towards security by doing an evaluation of yourself.

Do journal writing: view your insecurities in work, in your relationship, when you look in the mirror, and break down those insecurities by becoming aware of them. Dig into them to try and find some sort of understanding, keep asking ‘why’ to go deeper into them.

How do you build healthy self-esteem?

We must engage in healthy changes to allow ourselves to fully grow and release what is no longer serving us. We need to be as vulnerable as we can with ourselves and shed the idea of perfection because that fuels insecurity.

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Meet Billy Eldridge


Meet Billy, the resident beta male. For Billy, this is a place to hang out with other beta males and the people who love them. We’re redefining what beta males look like in the world. I have learned to embrace my best beta self, and I can help you to do the same. As a therapist, I understand the need to belong. You belong here. Join the REVOLUTION.

Meet Brandy Eldridge


Hello, Beta friends. I am an alpha personality who is embracing the beta way of life. I feel alive when connected with people, whether that is listening to their stories or learning about their passions. Forget small talk, let’s go deep together. Come to the table and let’s have some life-changing conversations.

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